I’d had it.

The pain had settled deeply and there I was on the bathroom floor gushing the first wave of tears from a lifetime of wounds. My picture-perfect life shattering right before my eyes.

I rise to adjust my mask. My fingers slowly trace the outline of my face in the reflection of the mirror. I notice each curve, each wrinkle, and the way my eyes look… hollow.

I feel dead – six feet under, pushing up daises kind of dead.

Leaning in, I tighten my brows and look deeper into my eyes, thinking just maybe I’d see something worth salvaging in my matted soul. Something to signal that there’s hope.

Please, God. I need some help here. The pain is too great. Too heavy. Please…

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Hey there. I’m Dominica, author, content writer, and spiritual mentor committed to writing the kind of content that creates positive change. “Wowing” Google with great SEO is fine, but actually reaching the spirits of each reader is my jam. As a freelancer, I write about a lot of topics, but I specialize in the mental health, addiction, spirituality, and personal development niches. 

I’ve worked and written for publications including Mind Body Green, Sober Living, American Addiction Centers, Elephant Journal, Women’s Health, Refinery29, Rebelle Society, among others.

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THE PAIN, IT SHAPES HER WORLD, is a full-length debut collection of two hundred poems, musings, philosophical rants, and reveries by author and poet Dominica Applegate. Composed during a time of intense self and spiritual discovery, it’s a steady stream of conscious thoughts and emotions evolving from the pain of a broken heart, disillusionment of a perfect life, and hope for a spirit of healing and restoration. It encapsulates mourning. It dreams magic. It travels through the dark night before the rise of a beautiful dawn. Journey with Dominica at her most vulnerable state, through mountains of pain and valleys of hope. You’ll see grief, you’ll see hope. You’ll see a woman wobbling on life’s tightrope. Perhaps you’ll bear witness to your own inner struggles as you read, and if so, may you find comfort and healing for your own journey.

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