Sometimes The Dark Really Does Lead To Dawn
Have you ever been through a really tough time in your life and wondered if you would ever see the light? Do you know others who wrestle with depression and all sorts of other negative emotions?
Surely, we’ve all entered periods of time when sadness, frustration, depression, or even hopelessness has worn us out and left us a mess inside. It is quite common to struggle sometimes on this journey called life.
What do you make of those times? Do you grumble and complain your way through them? Do you whine and cry and give yourself a big pity party? Do you numb or deaden your pain with anesthetics like alcohol, pills, food, sex, etc.? I mean, really…
Who wants to feel pain?
Pain is part of life, yet we squelch and fight it at the first sign. But what if darkness and pain is an opportunity for us to grow spiritually? What if there really are blessings that come from the pain and discomfort we feel while in periods of darkness? Would we have a different perspective when those times come? Sure, we would.
The Dark Night Of The Soul
If you study some of the spiritual men and women of the past, many of them talk about how they entered a “dark night of the soul” and how utterly wretched those times were spiritually for them. Their struggle was not against outward things, but it was inward- in the core of their being. They talk about feeling despair, hopelessness, and emptiness. They cried out for relief. They wondered why they had to go through such darkness and pondered the meaning and purpose of life.
The dark night of the soul can be a time of transformation. It is a time of stripping away the levels of pain, frustration, anger, sadness, mistakes, etc. one by one. It is allowing something greater to awaken the spirit within so that magnificent beauty can bubble up and radiate outward into humanity.
It is a time of discovering who we are at the very essence of our souls.
This is what Pema Chodron has to say about the dark night:
“In the process of discovering our true nature, the journey goes down, not up, as if the mountain pointed toward the earth instead of the sky. We move down and down and down, and with us move millions of others, our companions in awakening …Right there we discover a love that will not die.”
The Dark Always Leads To Dawn
Just like the sun rises every morning after a dark night, so does LOVE rise after our dark nights. Love is at the very core of every being on this planet. The problem is that multitudes do not feel that love nor let it ooze out of them into those around them. In fact, many people do not even love themselves because they allow layers and layers of emotional pain to cover up the river of love inside.
Dear one, may we all view dark periods of life with a perspective that during those times we have something to learn. During the dark nights, we are facing our fears, regrets, hurts, and so much more in order to chisel through the hard layers of our past to find LOVE.
Pure, innocent, abundant, brilliant, unconditional LOVE.
Maybe we won’t be 100% lovey dovey after we’ve gotten through a dark night, but maybe we’ll have shed a layer of pain or ego. Maybe we’ll be able to love ourselves more, and others too. Maybe we’ll be able to let down our guard some and allow others in better. Maybe we’ll allow ourselves to be more vulnerable with our partner, trusting that we’re safe. Maybe we’ll forgive our parent(s), friends, siblings, etc. and begin connecting at a deeper level with them.
Are you seeking to grow spiritually? Then you might expect to go through some dark nights on your journey, but fear not because pain can be a stepping stool to growth, freedom, love, joy, and a big smile. I have heard many people tell me how their shattered dreams helped them develop an inner strength and peace that they never thought they would have. I myself have battled the darkness and even though back then I didn’t believe I was growing, I can look back now and see the many ways I grew during that period.
And still today, when I’m going through a rough spot, I’m going inside, seeing how this can help me expand and grow on my path- not just for me either, but for others too. After all, there’s a whole lot of people who need some TLC on this planet.
What Are You Struggling With?
Are you having trouble seeing your path because it is so dark? Are you struggling with sadness, fear, depression, anger, frustration, disappointment, etc.? If so, it might be that your negative emotions are nudging you to begin a journey within; a journey to emotional and spiritual healing. I admonish you to endure the dark even when you are tired and frustrated, because the sun always breaks the night in all its brilliant glory and you too can experience a dawn!
“The nearer the dawn the darker the night.” Henry Wadsworth Longfellow