Unlock The Power of Meditation

Unlock The Power of Meditation

Unlock the Power of Meditation

 

“All I know is that when I can sit in nature, listening to the birds and feeling the wind on my skin, life feels right. I feel right.”

The mind sure can busy itself with thoughts, huh?  Thought after thoughts turning on the wheel, oftentimes causing us to feel anxiety or fear.

Meditation (silence) is a technique that can help you gain more control over your thought life. It’s been quite instrumental in helping me heal at a deep level.

Please consider taking a season to learn about and implement meditation into your life.  It’s not only beneficial for emotional healing, but it’s helpful physically and spiritually. It reduces stress, helps with concentration, gives your self-awareness a boost, helps you feel happier, and more. In fact, there are plenty of scientifically validated reasons that ought to get you motivated to start meditating regularly – starting today.

The hardest thing about meditation is actually taking the time to do it. Most people won’t do it. You’d think that sitting quietly and focusing on your breath for a few minutes would be a piece of cake, but it’s not.  We live in a society where noise is constant, and people are hustling much of the time. And, when they’re not busy, they’ve got their mobile phones or iPad out.

Just look around. Even at a park, people are on their phones rather than sitting quietly taking in the awesomeness of nature.

But sitting for three minutes in silence?

Easier said than done, but it can be done when you commit to it as a discipline.

When I first started meditating, I found guided meditations helpful.

Guided meditations are meditations where a person gently guides you toward relaxation or a particular goal, such as less anxiety or more self-love.

They can really help you shift your focus and grow personally and spiritually.  It’s quite easy to engage with a guided meditation, as all you have to do is sit or lie down, close your eyes, and listen to the meditation with an open mind.

Meditation For Beginners

Meditation is an ancient technique has long been popular in the East and is deemed to be a superb practice for enhancing relaxation, peace, and joy in one’s life.

If you want to learn more about meditation, follow these easy steps to incorporate such a beneficial practice in your life.

1.  Find a quiet spot. Meditation is simply a practice that involves you sitting in a quiet spot and focusing on your breathing.  The first step is to find a relaxing and quiet spot to practice meditation. You can sit with your legs crossed on the floor if you choose. Keep your back straight, yet relaxed.  If sitting on the floor is difficult, sit in a comfortable chair or lie down.  You simply want to feel relaxed and not have any distractions around.

2.  Concentrate on the breath. The first thing you will do is take three deep breaths. Inhale deeply and focus on the air going into your lungs. Then exhale slowly while concentrating on the breath leaving the lungs and relaxing every muscle in your body.  You want to really focus on letting go of all stress while you focus on the inhale and exhale.  Once you have taken your deep breaths, continue to focus on your inhale and exhale as you breathe naturally.

3.  Let go of thoughts. One of the reasons you are to concentrate on your breathing is because when you do this, by default you are not focusing on thoughts running around your mind. Have you noticed that you seem to be thinking thoughts all the time? You think even when you don’t want to! As you keep your attention on your breathing, your thoughts should decrease greatly. Once in a while you will find yourself thinking a thought and if so, it is quite normal and alright. Simply acknowledge the thought and then let it go. Do not entertain it. Just bid it adieu and get back to focusing on your breath. 

4.  Introduce a mantra. Some people really like introducing a mantra in their meditation time. A mantra is simply a word or phrase and in meditation you can concentrate on and repeat that mantra. Om is a very common mantra that is used, but there are many others.  Om is said to be the sound vibration of the universe. Do a little research to see what kinds of mantras appeal to you.

The time you commit to meditation is completely up to you. Beginners usually start off with five or ten minutes, but go with what you feel comfortable with. The more you meditate, the longer you will be able to sit quietly. Seasoned meditators can meditate for 30 minutes to an hour at a time without a problem, but do what works for you. You might want to attend a meditation class to learn more about the ancient practice.  It will certainly serve you well.

There are many free guided meditations online and I’ve taken advantage of many of them.  If you’re dealing with fear, find one on fear. If you’re having a difficult time loving yourself, find one about self-worth. There are meditations on just about every topic, including decreasing anxiety, fear of abandonment, jealousy, and so on.

I firmly believe that if you will consistently take time to listen to guided meditations, you will experience some positive changes in your life. It’s the CONSISTENCY that many people will not commit to. They’ll do it once or twice (or not at all), and then say “It doesn’t work for me.”

Discipline yourself, dear one, to do small things consistently toward your recovery, and over time, you’ll see favorable results.

Here are some guided meditations to try at your leisure:

Blissful Deep Relaxation

Relaxation, Anxiety, & Depression

 – Healing

 – Inner Child Healing

Are You Abiding In Peace?

Are You Abiding In Peace?

 

Are You Abiding In Peace?

When I think that God can love me despite my flaws, my mistakes, my forsaking my faith so many times…. I am overwhelmed with emotion.

When I allow myself to sit in silence, to just inhale peace, it is there that all is well.  There’s no struggle and I am free. It’s there that grace finds me and I feel Spirit’s love for me – a kind of love I cannot even give myself.  A kind of love that sees me for who I really am underneath so many darn layers of ego. Of regrets. Of pain.

“My people will abide in a peaceful habitation…and in quiet resting places.” Isaiah 32:18

7+ billion people on the planet. How many are resting in a peaceful habitation? Resting at all?  The carnal nature has a bent toward doing, striving, mind-racing, producing more, and more, and more. That will not produce peace. That produces high levels of stress, anxiety, and a gap in our relationship with Spirit.

And I get it because I’ve been there. It’s a constant balancing act.  Committing to a life marked by sitting in silence (meditation, sacred time with God), prayer (actively thinking and speaking to God), and listening. How many of us are doing this throughout the day?  How many find it challenging to sit quietly for 1 minute a day?

I love to research and experiment, and prayer and faith are two things I put to the test more and more. I’m here to tell you if you’ll put the time in to just sit in silent prayer, focusing on your breath, on the divinity of God, you’re going to begin to experience some inner changes.  You’re going to begin to get some revelation of God’s will and ways. You don’t have to speak long prayers… you don’t have to “know how to pray”.  Just be quiet for now. 

Be quiet and reverent and go within.

And yes, surely pray out loud at times with passion and zeal. Dance ecstatically under Spirit’s influence with shouts of praise. Emotionally infused prayers are like sweet incense to God, so go for it! Ask for what you desire, affirm that it’s manifesting as you believe. Just do your best to ask from your spirit man and not your ego man. Ego wants a lot, but is usually not in sync with Spirit.

How will you know the difference? You might not always know, but I believe as you cultivate a more intimate relationship with God, you’ll just know.

I want more of God’s divine presence in my life. I want to tap into Christ consciousness more each day, and in order to do so, I must be consistent with my spiritual discipline.  I must make time to become more acquainted with my inner life. This spaciousness in my mind and spirit. The Kingdom of God that Jesus talked about. A more enlightened understanding of the Mystery.

This is my commitment. I hope you’ll join me.

Our Father in heaven,
Reveal who you are.
Set the world right;
Do what’s best—
    as above, so below.
Keep us alive with three square meals.
Keep us forgiven with you and forgiving others.
Keep us safe from ourselves and the Devil.
You’re in charge!
You can do anything you want!
You’re ablaze in beauty!
    Yes. Yes. Yes.

Matthew 6:13 MSG

Seek the Light – Devotional

Seek the Light – Devotional

When To Leave A Bad Relationship

 

So many people come on the forum and ask if they should leave their partner.  They’re confused, hurt, and scared.  Granted, there’s always some sort of story that goes along with the question.

They’re in a relationship with someone:

  • Who is over-drinking or drugging.
  • Who is not emotionally available.
  • Who doesn’t act like they are in love anymore.
  • Who is a very selfish person or a narcissist.
  • Who is emotionally or physically abusing them.

Of course, there are other scenarios as well.

Now this is a tough question to answer.  There’s no “one-size-fits-all” answer for sure.

But I’d like to go over five signs or signals that indicate that it might be time to get packing.

  1. Any Type Of Abuse

Hands down abuse is a clear indicator that it’s time to end the relationship.  I’m talking emotional, verbal, or physical abuse. Abuse is never alright. Even if they’re going through something horrible or they’ve had a tough life; it’s not acceptable.  Even if you’ve acted out, made mistakes, or whatever, it’s not acceptable.

If you’re experiencing abuse in any form, it’s time to get out of that relationship.  If you need help, find the nearest domestic violence center and speak with someone who can support you.  If you have nowhere to go, they may be able to assist you. Even staying on your best friend’s couch is better than staying in an abusive situation.

Also, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline. They’ve got professionals that can help you sort this out and make a plan to end the abuse.  You never deserve abuse; not ever. Leaving is YOU standing up and practice self-care. It’s you taking care of you and letting that other person figure out what to do with themselves. You don’t owe him or her anything. You don’t have to be loyal to someone who is abusing you.

  1. Your Talks Amount to No Changes

Chances are you’ve voiced your wants and needs in this relationship, multiple times. You might have even screamed them a few times, to no avail. He keeps drinking himself into oblivion. She keeps flirting with every man she sees, right in front of you.  He stays out later and later, neglecting the relationship. And so on.

If you’ve had discussion after discussion, clearly stating what you want and need, and they’re not willing or able to at least work towards meeting them, it might be time to cut ties. I’m not saying to leave if they have no idea what’s going on inside your head. You’ve got to get very honest with yourself and them, and also ask them what their wants and needs are.

However, if you’ve done this over and over, and nothing is changing and they’re not looking like they’re interested in “doing the work” to make changes, it might be time to make the break.

  1. They Keep Lying

Living with a repetitive liar can feel awful. You never know if you can trust what they are saying. You want to believe them. You want to believe that they’re making a turnaround, but there you are finding them in yet another lie.

Some people are repetitive liars and for one reason or another, can’t or won’t stop.  If this has been going on for a while and your requests for honesty are not being met, it might be an indicator that this relationship isn’t going to work for you.

  1. Emotional Neglect

Feeling alone in a relationship sucks.  You want to emotionally connect with your partner at least to some degree, right? But not everyone is able to make that connection – or not everyone WANTS to make that deep and meaningful connection. And that’s alright if you want a shallow connection; it actually works for many. But if you’ve voiced your wants and needs and they’re continually being neglected, it might be time to make the cut.

  1. No Love Reciprocation

It’s not very fun to be on the other side of someone who does not reciprocate love.  You love them and you happen to like to show affection. But they don’t. You’ve asked and asked for them to level up on this end.  To affirm love every now and then. Show affection sometimes. But they don’t. They may not feel those love-type feelings for you or they just don’t know how to reciprocate them. They may have checked out long ago and are simply staying out of comfort or fear.  Either way, if you’re giving, giving, and giving and not getting anything in return, it might be time to leave the relationship.

Granted, there are other situations and solutions, but these indicators can help you gauge your relationship and get clearer on what you should do. And, if you find yourself continuing to struggle, reach out to a good therapist for some guidance. You don’t have to figure it out all alone.

You deserve a healthy relationship with someone who values and appreciates you. There’s too many people out there who CAN do that, so don’t stay connected to someone who won’t. This is your life and what you want and need matters.

 

Powerful Prayers For Adult Children

Powerful Prayers For Adult Children

Powerful Prayers For Adult Children

 

Whether your children are 18, 30, or older, consistent prayers offered on their behalf not only helps them, but helps you to have a more peaceful and faith filled heart.  I know for me, if I’m not looking toward a loving God concerning my adult children and their lives, I can get into fear and worry. 

Here are some scriptures and affirmations to pray/affirm for your adult children. I use affirmative prayers because Jesus said to pray, believe, and then we’ll receive. I’ve also paraphrased them in a way that I felt led. So, I affirm that my prayers are done (and they are in the spiritual realm), so I affirm until they manifest and then keep affirming and offering gratitude.

Get into that secret place and allow these words to penetrate the heart of God, as there is power in our words!  I look at it this way: Hold an object in front of a mirror and you see that object as it is.  But if you turn that object just a little, you see it differently. Praying for my children, in my eyes, helps them make shifts that grant them a closer relationship with God, themselves, and others, and therefore, a better life.

Prayers for adult children:

  1. Ephesians 1:17-19

God, thank you that my children are receiving your spirit of wisdom and revelation, getting to know you better and better each day. Getting to know you more personally! Experiencing your presence! Thank you that their hearts are being opened and they’re clearly hearing what you’ve created and called them to do in this life. That they’re becoming more aware of the immensity of your glorious way of life, your awesome power, and your endless, boundless strength!

  1. Colossians 1:9-12 (Coupled with Ephesian 5 fruits of the spirit)

God, fill my children with an understanding of you and your will. Thank you that they walk in a manner that pleases you and bear fruit that blesses themselves and others in all areas of their lives –Fruits of the Spirit like peace, kindness, humility, patience, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Thank you that their coming to a deeper understanding of who and what you are. God, strengthen them with faith filled power, endurance, patience, and joy. Thank you!

  1. Micah 6:8

Thank you, God, that my children are learning more and more how to live as you desire them to. That they’re going within and listening to your guidance. That they’re compassionate, loyal, kind, and humble.

  1. Proverbs 2:1-11

My children receive wisdom and understanding from God as they make decisions in life, such as career, service, dating, marriage, friendships, finances, and parenting.

  1. James 4:1-8

My children guard their hearts from the temptations and lusts of this carnal world.  Things like greed, addiction, lust, power trips, hurting others, lying, etc. They allow God’s will to work in them, resisting the ways of this carnal, egotistical world. If they fall or miss the mark, they humble themselves before God, and get right back up with a heart after the ways of their creator.

I’ll add to this list periodically. Commit to praying faithfully for your children, as prayer and affirmations are great ways to continually uphold and support them. Believe God’s best for them, no matter what’s going on in the physical realm.  See the spiritual realm, believing God is always at work on their behalf. We must believe for them, always.

If you’d like to add a scriptural prayer or affirmation, please do so in the comments below.  

 

Prayers & Affirmations for an Addict or Alcoholic

Prayers & Affirmations for an Addict or Alcoholic

Prayers & Affirmations for an Addict or Alcoholic

It’s challenging when a loved one is struggling with the disease of addiction. You find out in a quick minute that essentially you’re powerless to change or fix them. You can, however, learn how to best support your loved one and take care of yourself too. I find prayer helps. I find having faith in God to act helps, because my “talks” don’t seem to get through. (I’m sure many can relate)

Take time to sit quietly and pray for your loved ones. Affirm them. Visualize them free from the grip of addiction. See God/Jesus/Angels surrounding him or her. Cover them in prayer regularly. 

Here are some prayers and affirmations I’ve written you can use as a guide, but certainly pray as you are led. There’s no right or wrong when it comes to prayer. Say what you feel and what you want.

Please pray with a sincere, earnest heart.

  • God, please open _____ eyes to the reality of this situation and his/her dependence on alcohol/drugs. Let him/her begin to see and acknowledge that he/she is not in control of his/her usage. That he/she would benefit greatly from quitting drinking/drugging.
  • God, please strengthen _____ and give him/her the courage to reach out for help. Enable him to take his/her first step toward recovery. Give him/her persistence to persevere to be free from alcoholism/drug addiction.
  • I pray that you would begin to heal ______ brokenness and emptiness. Help him/her to move past the guilt, shame, and anger the he/she may have from years of addiction. Give them the courage to reach out for professional help. Let him/her see how loved and valuable they are!
  • I pray for ______ freedom, deliverance, and restoration.
  • I come before You, God and repent of all my sins and my ancestors sins that may have resulted in a curse. I repent of all disobedience, rebellion, lying, perversion, adultery, idolatry, fornication, murder, witchcraft, and so on. May Your forgiveness abound!
  • In the authority in the Name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, I command all demonic spirits of depression, alcoholism, addictions of any kind, anxiety, fear, rage, torment, guilt, rejection, sickness, confusion, apathy, laziness, to release _____________ in Jesus Name! All darkness must flee!
  • I break all written and spoken curses over my life and my family’s life in Jesus name! I break every chain, shackle, cord, habit, craving, soul-ties, and debt that has tried to steal from our lives.
  • _____ is free from the curse.
  • ______ is free from alcoholism.
  • _____is blessed abundantly.
  • ______ receives the spirit of discernment. He/she has your vision, God, and follows your ways.
  • God, protect and be with _____. Send your angels to accompany, defend, and protect him/her. Place a hedge of protection around him/her. Remove any enabler or bad influence from his/her life. Surround him/her with godly, good souls who will encourage him. Lead him/her to those who can offer valuable support, encouragement, and accountability.
  • Increase his/her faith in You. Give him/her passion and purpose. Show him/her your plan for his life and give him/her the desire to follow YOUR ways.
  • Help him/her remember who he/she is in You. Let him/her experience Your peace and unconditional love.
  • Thank you, God, for hearing and answering my prayers.

POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS FOR ALCOHOLICS OR ADDICTS

____ is free from addiction.

____ looks inward to find peace and joy.

____ takes full responsibility for his/her life.

____ resists the temptation to drink/use drugs.

____ has positive social supports surrounding him/her.

____ loves him/herself.

____ takes good care of him/herself mentally and physically.

____ is living a happy and healthy life.

No person, place, or thing has power over ____.

____ is doing the best he/she can right now. He/she is willing to grow and evolve.

____ supports him/herself in loving and supportive ways.