A Prayer For When The Struggle Is Real

A Prayer For When The Struggle Is Real Sometimes life feels as if it’s out of control. The struggle. Thoughts racing. Worries mounting. Sleepless nights. Trials and tribulations seem to be lurking around way too many corners, right? Check out the rest of this post...

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Midlife Career Change? I Feel Ya.

Starting A New Career In Middle AgeI’ve talked to a handful of middle-aged women recently who have the desire to change careers but either don’t know what they want to do or they’re afraid of making the change.I understand.  Changing your career in midlife or later...

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Midlife Blues: Do My Knees Look Old To You?

I recently sent a Snapchat to my children of my knees. I was sitting outside enjoying a gorgeous day when I looked down and saw…aging knees.By old, I mean I didn’t recognize them. They just seemed “off”. Wrinkly. Baggy. Knobby.Not the kind of knees I’d been accustomed...

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Hello. How Is Your Spirit Doing? 

It's easy to greet each other with a "Hello. How are you?" And we usually get the common "Hey! I'm good. How are you?" But I hope that we'll become a society that goes deeper with each other, and start asking, "How are you REALLY doing? How is your spirit doing"...

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Inner Healing Work: What Is It + Why People Fear It

Inner Healing Work: What Is It + Why People Fear It   If you spend time with me, you’ll most likely hear me talk about doing your “inner healing work”. But many people don’t really understand what it means to do inner work.  Sure, they know about therapists and...

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Ah, Come On, Menopausal God. Give Me Something Here

Ah, Come On, Menopausal God. Give Me Something HereRemember the days of PMS? When you felt as if you were crawling out of your skin? Progesterone and estrogen levels erratically surging, making you feel as if you either want to either hide away in your room and sob...

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Proclaiming Freedom From Codependency For All

Proclaiming Freedom From Codependency For All You’re my cave to hide in,    my cliff to climb.Be my safe leader,    be my true mountain guide.Free me from hidden traps;    I want to hide in you.I’ve put my life in your hands.    You won’t drop me,    you’ll never let...

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What Is Codependency?

What Is Codependency? Ok, ok, just what is codependency? It's a question I hear a lot. Codependency is essentially defined as an unhealthy attachment to a person. It’s a “dependency” on another in a way that’s not really very healthy. It is a term that came out from...

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We Are Enough: Do You Believe That?

  What Are We Here For? Codependency is a popular term, but it's outdated.  It's oftentimes misunderstood.  And, some people go throughout life thinking they have this "condition" that will always be a thorn in their side. I'm a firm believer that we are not...

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Unlock The Power of Meditation

Unlock the Power of Meditation   “All I know is that when I can sit in nature, listening to the birds and feeling the wind on my skin, life feels right. I feel right.” The mind sure can busy itself with thoughts, huh?  Thought after thoughts turning on the wheel,...

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The CRAFT Method For Surviving Loved One’s Addiction

A CRAFTY Method For Survival “He’s missed his last three doses at the methadone clinic – two because he said he was broke and this morning because he couldn’t get his butt out of bed. We have such a busy day with the kids and I need his help. How can I help him get...

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Madly In Love Or Just Mad?

Madly In Love or Just Mad? “We used to be madly in love, but now we’re just mad all the time. Crazy, right?” Falling in love is beautiful, isn't it?  I can say for myself the process of falling in love makes me feel like I can do anything! There are reasons why...

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Thought Awareness And Reframing Exercise

Thought Awareness and Reframing Part of emotional healing requires us to revisit past memories, perhaps even feeling some of the negative feelings associated with such. Today, let me show you a quick technique that has helped me get in the habit of becoming more of an...

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Codependency Recovery Is Important

 Codependency Recovery is Important I commend you on your patience and persistence to continue to explore your issues and get familiar with the main triggers of your codependent tendencies. And, progressing in your codependency recovery, begin to implement a set of...

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Learn To Set & Keep Boundaries: Part 2

What You Want and Need Matters, So Set Those Boundaries! The reason why some people end up struggling with relating in a codependent way is that they don’t understand the importance or don’t know how to set and keep boundaries. Sadly, they usually come to realize this...

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Setting And Keeping Boundaries: Part 1

Setting and Keeping Boundaries “My husband has been using pills for almost a decade. We have two kids together and I’m tired of being the one in charge of everything.  I’d been putting up with it alright until last month when I got a call from the cops in the middle...

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Self-Care: Ask For What You Need

Self-Care: Ask For What You Need Life can get incredibly busy with work, kids, errands, chores, appointments, etc.  Time is a precious commodity. Surely, you enjoy spending time with your loved ones, but sometimes the hustle and bustle of life makes it difficult to...

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Please Don’t Leave Me! The Fear Of Abandonment

The Fear of Abandonment “Don’t panic. I’m with you.There’s no need to fear for I’m your God.I’ll give you strength. I’ll help you.I’ll hold you steady, keep a firm grip on you.” Isaiah 41:10 The.Fear.Of.Abandonment. It’s certainly real, ya’ll. Maybe you’ve knowingly...

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Inner Child Healing Exercise

Childhood Photograph Dialogue Exercise Yes, that’s me at five years old. That little girl is who went through some scary things and didn’t understand why. That’s the little girl who figured she better be a “good girl”, because maybe if she was “good”, Mom and Dad...

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Let Go Of Your “Not-So-Good-Enough” Self

 Let Go Of Your “Not-So-Good-Enough” Self None of our childhoods were perfect. Sure, many of us had good childhoods with loving parents.  But perfection in the way that all of our wants and needs were met? Nah. Didn’t happen. So, we grow up with some wounds. Some...

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Codependency: A Sacred View

Codependency: A Sacred View “Codependency? WTH? I feel so alone. No one understands and I question whether anyone really cares. I know I don’t deserve this, but here I am struggling in this relationship. Is there a reason for this? Is there some big lesson I’m...

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Draw Up A Blueprint

Draw Up Your Blueprint Without a blueprint, contractors would be up a creek, huh?  Having to build a home without specifications could really cause some headaches and an unsafe dwelling In the same way, we need a blueprint when it comes to overcoming codependent...

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Codependency Recovery: Start Building A Foundation

Codependency Recovery: Start Building A Foundation “I can’t believe who I’ve become.  I’m sinking lower and lower, snooping through his phone reading his texts, checking the history on his computer.  I want to trust him, but he’s lied so many times – or at least I...

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Breathe. You Are Not Alone

Breathe: You’re Not Alone “I just found out my partner relapsed. We’ve been together four years and sure, we had our share of problems, but this has devastated me.  I don’t even know what to do anymore. He says he’s done. Says he doesn’t want to lose me, but last...

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Step 1- Acceptance

STEP 1 - ACCEPTANCE   If you’re not willing to open up and look at the truth – the reality that you’ve been living in. The good, the bad, and the ugly – then you’re not going to get very far in recovering from codependency. You might talk a good talk and know the...

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Codependency Recovery – Start Here

I’m Coda What? “Are you kidding me? I’m not codependent and I don’t need a support group!” That was me ten years ago, when I was an emotional basket case and clueless about just how deep I was in a codependent mud puddle. A codependency recovery support group? Really?...

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Attachment Styles: How Do You Attach To Others?

Attachment Styles: How Do You Attach To Others? We've explored the nature of codependency and how it can slowly ruin a relationship. You get into a relationship and things seem so amazing when the “love high” is going on. However, at some point the relationship takes...

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Set Boundaries With Loved Ones

It’s Alright to Set Boundaries With Loved Ones I'm no stranger to online recovery forums. I find many people write in wondering how to set boundaries with their loved ones.  Whether their loved one is an addict, alcoholic, selfish, unavailable emotionally, etc.,...

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5 Must Read Books For Loved Ones Of Addicts/Alcoholics

5 Must Read Books For Loved Ones Of Addicts/Alcoholics If you've got a loved one struggling with alcoholism or addiction, chances are you're wondering how you can best support them and take care of you.  It's not easy being on the opposite end of an addict, that's for...

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How To Tell If My Husband (Or Wife) Is Using Drugs

How To Tell If My Husband (Or Wife) Is Using Drugs Not knowing if your spouse is using drugs or not can cause so much anxiety.  Maybe they’ve got a history of drug use or maybe you’re seeing some sketchy behaviors.  Have you caught him in a lie? Is he slurring his...

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Addiction & Neuroplasticity: What’s The Deal?

Addiction & Neuroplasticity: What's The Deal?   With millions struggling with addiction globally, something’s got to break treatment wise. Sure, some progress is being made, but not nearly enough.  There’s a lot of theories as to what needs to happen, and...

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Can A Codependent Be A Narcissist?

Can You Be Codependent and a Narcissist? Some people have asked me if it’s possible that they could be codependent and a narcissist.  Now, from a psychological standpoint, the answer is no, mainly because each disorder is at the opposite end of the spectrum.  What can...

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Embrace The Beauty Of A Scar

Embrace The Beauty Of A Scar Everyone experiences pain in life at various time.  We all get hurt. We all go through some pretty rough times. In fact, some of you may be struggling with something painful right now. Do you have any scars on your body?  A wound that...

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Are You Abiding In Peace?

Are You Abiding In Peace? When I think that God can love me despite my flaws, my mistakes, my forsaking my faith so many times…. I am overwhelmed with emotion. When I allow myself to sit in silence, to just inhale peace, it is there that all is well.  There’s no...

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How Do You Fight Your Battles?

  How Do You Fight Your Battles? I love worship music - all different kinds.  Music that points my focus in the direction of an awe-inspiring Creator simply moves me. In fact, music makes me FEEL more deeply than many things. It's part of my therapy regimen. 😉  I'm...

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Powerful Prayers For Adult Children

Powerful Prayers For Adult Children Whether your children are 18, 30, or older, consistent prayers offered on their behalf not only helps them, but helps you to have a more peaceful and faith filled heart.  I know for me, if I’m not looking toward a loving God...

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Self Vs.God: Who Do You Serve?

Self Vs.God: Who Do You Serve? I love “self-serve” options. Self-serve gas stations, ice cream parlors, buffets, and even checking out at the grocery store.  I’ll admit that for the most part, I like to be in control. Which brings me to the topic of self vs. god. Who...

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What Is Affirmative Prayer?

What Is Affirmative Prayer? I’ll pray for you. We say that quite a bit, don’t we?  But I imagine many times the sentiment is not followed through upon.  I know I’ve said it and then forgot to actually take a moment to pray for someone.   So, I don’t say it much...

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Where Is Your Peace?

Where is Your Peace? If you’ve ever had to rise from the ashes of a failed relationship, then you probably understand deep heartache.Yes, we loved them.Yes, they loved us.Then what happened?Why is the percentage of failed relationships so high? It baffles the mind of...

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Sometimes Darkness Leads To Dawn

Sometimes The Dark Really Does Lead To Dawn   Have you ever been through a really tough time in your life and wondered if you would ever see the light? Do you know others who wrestle with depression and all sorts of other negative emotions?  Surely, we’ve all...

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Affirmative Healing Prayers

I've created 31 affirmative prayers for healing. Go ahead and meditate on them and pray them daily! AFFIRMATIVE HEALING PRAYERS Facebook Instagram Pinterest

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5 Comments That Will Help You Diffuse A Narcissist

5 Comments To Diffuse A Narcissist If you’re dealing with a narcissist, chances are you’re left feeling defeated more times than you’d like. You’re walking on eggshells, feeling inadequate, and likely exhausted from making darn sure their ego is having a good trip....

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Toxic Person? Relationship? Detach, Dear One

Detach From The Narcissist/Addict/Emotional Abuser In A Loving Way Codependents sure know how to attach.  In fact, some attach like a famished blood-sucking leech. It’s easier than you think to become obsessed with another person, such as your children or your...

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You Are a Spirit: 25 Ways to Feel More Spiritual

You Are a Spirit: 25 Ways to Feel More Spiritual I understand quite well that we all want to find meaning and purpose in life. For me, when I'm feeling empty and well, sort of useless, it's not a good feeling.  There are certainly many paths to spiritual growth or...

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5 Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate

5 Toxic Behaviors We Should Never Tolerate   “You’re such a frickin’ idiot! Is their something wrong with your brain?” I know, right? How rude! This type of verbal bashing, along with plenty of other toxic behaviors, shouldn’t be tolerated in any relationship....

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Life With An Addict: Lessons Learned

Life With An Addict: Lessons Learned {Guest Post by Kristi C.}   No doubt if you’re living with a loved one who’s struggling with alcoholism or drug addiction, you’re weighed down with worry and stress, feeling lost. You feel you’re going crazy and that your...

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Don’t Text Your Feelings!

Don’t Text Your Feelings: Ask For What You Need   I express myself better in writing, especially when it comes to communicating how I feel. This might be alright for a blog or casual conversation, but when it comes to trying to communicate serious feelings to my...

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The Codependency Dance Is No Fun

The Codependency Dance If you’re like me, you sometimes dance in your home all by yourself when one of your favorite dance songs comes on.  Ah, come on, you know you do, and rightly so: Dancing is fun. Well, except the Codependency Dance. That kind of dance stinks....

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For The Days You Want To Give Up

For The Days You Want To Give Up “You never give up, even when you should.” ― Kelly Creagh Whether you’re in active addiction, recovery from drinking or drugging, or codependency recovery, I assure you that there will be days when you want to give up. Give up hope,...

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Codependency Symptoms: How Codependent Are You?

Codependency Symptoms: How Codependent Are You? Codependency symptoms differ from one person to another. In fact, every problem that we might encounter, be it depression, anxiety, phobia or codependency, has its particularities. Two people struggling with codependency...

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How Do You Pray? The Art of Prayer

How Do You Pray? The Art Of Prayer   When we’re struggling with something, many people will say, “I’ll pray for you” and that’s wonderful. I think prayer is helpful. In fact, my decade or so involved in a praying church with prayer warriors as mentors taught me a...

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With What Eyes Do You See?

  With What Eyes Do You See? When Jesus went about teaching and healing those that were sick, he had a very clear idea of who he was as a child of God. As an extension of God. As a human being operating in the powerful Spirit of God.  He didn’t have success in healing...

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Oh, The Mystery of Divine Being!

Oh, The Mystery of Divine Being! “But the basic reality of God is plain enough. Open your eyes and there it is! By taking a long and thoughtful look at what God has created, people have always been able to see what their eyes as such can’t see: eternal power, for...

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6 Tips to Consciously Overcome a Challenge

6 Tips to Consciously Overcome a Challenge   I am faced with a the opportunity to overcome a challenge. Without going into details, even though they are pretty juicy, I’m experiencing more difficulties than I’d like in life right now. Yuck, right? We all know...

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Uncertain Times Call For Self-Care

Uncertain Times Call For Self-Care   We are living in a time of uncertainty right now in America. I’d be telling a big fat lie if it didn’t concern me at times. Still, even in times where we don’t really have much of a clue as to what is going to unfold, we’re...

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3 Mindsets That Sabotage Abundance

3 Mindsets That Sabotage Abundance   I’m quite proactive when it comes to goal setting. I believe writing down goals and creating action plans (and actually following through) to get there are important. I’m not perfect at this, but I’ve become pretty good at it. This...

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Need A Self-Esteem Boost?

Need A Self-Esteem Boost? Self-esteem is a crucial element of the human psyche. It's the driving force that stands behind our motivation and willingness to invest in various areas of our life. Without this invaluable element, our lives would probably be reduced to a...

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Life Is Not Black And White

Life Is Not Black And White A common codependency trait is black and white thinking. What I mean by that is thinking in terms of extremes. It’s looking at things in an “all or nothing”, good or bad, right or wrong perspective. There’s no gray area. It’s using words...

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Try Proprioceptive Writing to Heal Limiting Beliefs

Try Proprioceptive Writing to Heal Limiting Beliefs We all want a good life. A life filled with more peace and joy.  It’s a wonderful intention, right?  However, moments of peace and joy aren’t as plentiful when we aren’t aware of the unhealed wounds festering...

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You Are Not Codependency

You Are Not Codependency   I am not codependent, and neither are you. It’s time we drop the label, because the reality is that if you keep identifying with codependency so closely, you’re likely to keep creating the same reality. The codependency movement has...

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I Know I’m Codependent. Now What?

I Know I'm Codependent. Now What   There's a lot of information about codependency out there. You could read two articles and determined that yes, you're certainly struggling with codependent characteristics. In fact, you could read book after book and article...

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Why Do I Feel So Insecure in Relationship?

Why Am I So Insecure In My Relationships? Today’s topic is Attachment Theory and Codependency. If you’re struggling with codependency characteristics, it will serve you well to learn about the various attachment styles there are and how your attachment bond that you...

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Heal Your Pain

Pain as a Pathway to Joy We all experience emotional pain at times and as disheartening as it is, we don’t have to continue to suffer. Suffering means you give your power away; you feel powerless to do what needs to be done to decrease or heal the...

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When Your Partner Is An Alcoholic/Addict

When Your Partner Is An Alcoholic/Addict {Here's an article I wrote for a recovery forum geared toward those struggling with a loved one who is an alcoholic or addict. Hope this helps you better navigate this tricky road...} If you are in a relationship with an addict...

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Escaping Codependency In The Sacred

Escaping Codependency In The Sacred For me codependency was a god-send. Don’t get me wrong. It was very challenging to go through the toxic relationship that first pointed out to me that I certainly struggled with codependent characteristics. At the same time, had I...

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No More Crumbs

I Will Not Settle For Crumbs Anymore! Hey recovering codependents! Here’s a new mantra for ya!  Say it with me: “I will not settle for crumbs anymore!” Feels good, huh? Now, I’m talking relationships here, friends.  I mean we will not settle for others tossing us a...

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Give Form to Love {And, Merry Christmas!}

Give form to Love Give form to Love. This is what’s on my mind as we celebrate the holidays with family and friends. Love, be it in the form of the Master Teacher Jesus, Buddha, or a host of other enlightened beings, IS the reason for the season. The kind of love that...

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What is Energy Healing?

 The Basics of Energy Healing There’s a lot of information out there on energy healing, and some of it may be confusing. Here, I’ve sourced trusted information and used my own experiences to help you understand how energy healing works. It’s a short guide designed to...

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Is Your Life Too Busy?

Is Your Life Too Busy? Simplicity matters.  The ability to recognize whether you’re choosing to live simple or in a frenzied manner will certainly make a difference in how your life unfolds. I understand we live in a culture that is on “fast-forward”. Many children...

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What is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)?

What is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)? The Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a technique designed to help bring emotional freedom for those that suffer with negative emotions and health issues. Essentially, it is the use of psychological acupressure to...

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Respect the Mystery

“The wise man is one who, knows, what he does not know.”― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching I’ll be the first to admit that sometimes I get on the path of wanting to know.Seeking answers. Needing the truth. But you know what? Oftentimes that leads me to feeling frustrated,...

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When You’re Swimming in Pain

When You’re Swimming in Pain   “Just leave me alone. I’m not in a good place.” Ever hear that? Say that? Oh, where to begin when you feel yourself drowning in pain and misery? Where do you turn when your world is literally being turned upside down before your...

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Are You Dating A Narcissist?

Are You Dating a Narcissist? The world of dating can be pretty tricky, as we've all heard horror stories of our friend who got into a relationship with a cray cray or narcissist. If you're in the dating game, or you're in a relationship and you're wondering how you...

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The Myth of Normal & Why I’m Not

The Myth of Normal & Why I'm Not     I recently watched a talk by Dr. Gabor Mate, physician and addictions expert, about what he calls, “The myth of normal”, a concept that divides people into normal and abnormal based on pathological traits. What I...

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Hello, Star Shine {Poetry}

  hello star shine spring breaks forth, celebrating green  in splendor, warmth oozes down her shivering, vulnerable heart. grace brushes her face, leans in close with a whisper. flower child, you  must trust the arriving of a vision after hibernation, for time...

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13 Scriptures to Help Relieve Stress and Anxiety

13 Scriptures to Help Relieve Stress and Anxiety Life gives us plenty of opportunity to feel anxiety and stress. Whether it’s work, school, relationships, tragedies, fears, and so on, the reality is that you’ll have your fair share of stressful situations to contend...

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How Can We Show Up For The Hurting?

How Can We Show Up For The Hurting? In the light of all the natural disasters and violence seen in recent months, I'm sure there's a lot of heavy hearts all around the world. The devastation of thousands upon thousands of people feeling deep loss, fear, trauma, and...

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How Can I Get Unstuck?

The question came in today how can I make changes in my life when I feel so overwhelmed? How can I get unstuck? When I feel so down? When I don't have a clue where to begin? I mean, I want to make the changes, yet week after week I find myself in the same place. What...

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Darling, You’re Not Broken

Darling, You're Not Broken But my heart is broken. How the heck do you expect me to get up and smile every day? We hear this a lot. We see it a lot. Just scroll through Facebook or check Instagram quotes and you’ll see heartache splattered all over the place. Maybe...

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When Your Communication Skills Suck

When Your Relationship Communication Skills Suck   I think most of us can agree that relationships are not always smooth sailing.  Some are great, some are mediocre, and some are just plain terrible. There are many reasons and many factors that play a role, but a...

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Feminine Power: Let it Flow

Feminine Power: Let it Flow She lights her flame from within her bosom Resplendent strength radiates Her eyes soften any room Her aura commands attention She breeds authenticity and love Feminine energy fuels her tender heart Centered Confident She keeps me warm Read...

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Intro to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

There are many people out there who diagnose themselves with Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), but not all of them actually have the disorder. Today, I want to introduce you to the disorder so you can decide whether you should seek a therapist to explore the topic...

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Stop Stuffing Your Feelings

 Stop Stuffing Your Feelings If you’re prone to stuffing your feelings when you are in pain, I hope this article will help you out. Because when you stuff your emotions, you wind up not being able to be the person, partner, or parent that you could be. When you can...

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There is a God Who Rescued Me

There is a God Who Rescued Me “Come Breakdown, break me wide open. Carve your name in the caverns of my heart. Rip off the blinders. Cut the shadow’s cord. I can’t take one more day of this pitch blackness. This sandpaper love has rubbed me raw. For God’s sake...

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Soul Recovery: My Journey Back to Faith

Soul Recovery: My Journey Back to Faith The dark period of my life was necessary. The pain, suffering, confusion, and wandering all served a larger purpose - the death of me. The death of my ego. The death of fleshly driven hopes and dreams. “Listen carefully: Unless...

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Rend {Poetry}

rend her head gently drops not wanting to be seen somewhere in between wanting needing bleeding as she succumbs to vile crumbs sifting through egg shells scattered on her floor just a little more bet and believe she’ll even the score worthiness will trump...

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Lost and Found {Poetry}

lost and found the winds have shifted, and the stench of nausea blows from her belly. the monsoon’s over, she thought, blowing kisses to clouds of black. she must walk a new shore, swim in a new river, rain-dance a little more. she must sing to the gods of...

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Saying No Is An Art. Here’s How To Do It Gracefully

Saying No Is An Art: Here's How to do it Gracefully It was the kind of text that made my shoulders slump. A friend of a friend had asked me to write a short e-book for her business. "It's super short," she explained, obviously hoping I'd be able to squeeze it in...

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Toxic Relationships: For Love’s Sake, Cut Ties

Cutting Ties in a Toxic Relationship You’re sucking the life right out of me! Says anyone who has experienced toxic relationships before. Today’s topic is toxic people. Toxic in the way that they just don’t have healthy relationship skills. Whether they’re super...

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You Are the Power

you are the power when you realize that you are the power  you refuse to give away,  you can leave your door open  to the whole wide world.

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We’re Strong Enough To Let Go

You're Strong Enough To Let Go, Woman! It feels so good to FEEL one hundred percent responsible for my level of happiness. I mean, on the days I actually feel like this. To be the power that defines my emotions. To be the power to create the kind of life I desire....

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Stand Up For Yourself, Warrior Goddess

Can you stand up for yourself and still be spiritual? Chances are you’ve got people in your life who rub you the wrong way. Maybe they get angry and lash out at you. Or perhaps they manipulate/project their crap/nag the hell out of you. There’s probably many scenarios...

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Addiction, Community, & the Rat Park Experiment

Addiction, Community, & The Rat Park Experiment There is an addiction epidemic going on folks. From high functioning alcoholics to the affluent CEO snorting cocaine to the homeless on heroin, it's a big problem with limited solutions. And that's sad. I work in the...

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Blind on the Trail

Most of us began the New Year with a bang. With written down goals, dream board, drenched with ambition. I began the New Year empty. Maybe even numb. Why? Honestly, I don’t know. All the books I’ve read, motivational mojo I’ve listened to, and people I’ve talked to...

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Ditch the Mask Already, Will Ya?

Ditch the Mask Already, Will Ya? My fingers slowly trace the outline of my face in the reflection of the tarnished mirror. I notice each delicate curve, feature and the way my eyes look hollow. Deadness. I tighten my brows and look deeper, thinking just maybe I’d see...

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Stand Up. Own Your Voice

Stand Up: Own Your Voice   I just finished up an 8 week Signature Story Boot Camp course led by fabulous author Rachel Resnick and I must say, I’m a bit sad that it’s all over.  At the same time, I am eager to move onto the next step in my business + personal...

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Shoot for an Interdependent Relationship- Not Codependent

Shoot for an Interdependent Relationship- Not Codependent   Most of us want a healthy relationship with another person, but it’s not so easy for everyone to experience such. Those that find yourselves in a codependent or toxic relationship have got to get some...

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I Am Done {Spoken Word Poetry}

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D8ksdBAl0eM even on my best grown up days, there are subtle ways she... gets my attention. inside me, this little girl, wide-eyed and innocent, just wanting to explore this... life that too many times has led her astray, look long...

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Help! My Relationship is Dying!

If you’re anything like me, you totally enjoy sharing life with that special someone who makes your knees wobble and butterflies dance in your tummy. Falling in love, having adventures, partnering, and growing together is super duper amazing. I have learned though,...

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For the Netflix Binge Watching Crappy Kind of Days

For the Netflix Binge Watching Crappy Kind of Days I had a rough day yesterday. Felt horrible emotionally and just didn’t have it in me to pull myself out. Nope. No listening to motivation mojo. No getting out into nature to restore. No inner pep talk. Told my partner...

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50 Shades of Vulnerable

Nerves on edge, frightened at the thought of shedding comfortable layers, I courageously jumped into a new reality where nakedness is seen as beautiful. Authenticity viewed as courageous. Truth…noble.Yes, my spiritual journey tends to lead me out of my...

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Write the Gut Wrenching Pain Away

It hunts me down like the corpse eating zombie Beautiful wildflowers wither a somber death Black sketches itself across the canvas of my heart Shadows strip me of strength and sanity A crown of invisible sadness covers my frame I sit and stare at a lifeless landscape...

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Being Sober Doesn’t Always Fix Relationships

Being Sober Doesn't Always Fix Relationships   We can all relate to the far too often roller coaster ride when it comes to relationships. Live long enough and you’ll experience some sort of pain and confusion stemming from a friendship or intimate relationship....

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The History of Codependency

The History of Codependency The meaning of codependency today is far from the original meaning when it was first coined back in the 80’s. See, back in 1936, the 12 Step group Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) was started by Bill W. and Dr. Bob. This was a godsend to those...

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Do You Love a Narcissist?

Do You Love A Narcissist? If you’re wondering if your partner is a narcissist, you may be onto something. The fact that you’re reading this article indicates that something is amiss in your relationship, and narcissism could very well be the culprit. Dating a...

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Girl, Get You Some Boundaries In That Relationship!

Set Some Boundaries In That Relationship! Healthy relationships have healthy boundaries; enmeshed or codependent relationships do not. You’ve got one (or two) codependent people unable to set emotional and physical boundaries and it tears the relationship apart. How...

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11 Things Introverts Want You to Know

I didn’t really discover I was an introvert until I hit my 40s. I know. Late bloomer. I guess I just considered myself shy and perhaps lacking a huge desire to “socialize.” Today, I am proud to announce that I am a hardcore introvert and I’m betting...

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Let Love Expose You

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.”...

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9 Self-Care Tips for The Highly Sensitive Person

9 Self-Care Tips for The Highly Sensitive Person   “You’re too sensitive!” She said, slamming the door as she left. Well, you’re an IN-sensitive a**hole, I thought to myself, not having the nerve to actually say it out loud. Welcome to the world of being highly...

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Life Is Not a Test

Life Is Not a Test I used to like taking tests in school because I thrived on getting good grades. The actual act of studying and having that invested time pay off made me feel super good. Accomplished. Like I was someone important.  I’m figuring out the life is a...

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Are We Over-Medicating Women For Depression?

Are We Over-Medicating Women For Depression? I can get emotional. It’s true. Not just me, either. Many women get emotional and sometimes we’re just plain moody.  Chalk it up to hormone fluctuations, unexpected situations, or the fact that many of us feel this unending...

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How to Love a Woman Who Feels Unworthy

How To Love A Woman Who Feels Unworthy I think Kelsey won the “Most Delusional Award” last night on The Bachelor. Call me crazy, but I sort of enjoy watching this show strictly for entertainment sake. I mean, yes, I do believe in hardcore love and if you want to get...

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Torch What Doesn’t Serve You

 Torch What Doesn't Serve You “She was a genius of sadness, immersing herself in it, separating its numerous strands, appreciating its subtle nuances. She was a prism through which sadness could be divided into its infinite spectrum.” ― Jonathan Safran Foer I come...

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Sadness. The Bastard.

Sadness. The Bastard. Who hasn’t battled sadness at times? Sinking deeper by the minute, sometimes with no reason, we stare down the decision whether to fight or flop on the couch. Obviously exhausted. Sadness swallowed me whole for a good part of my life. Bastard. I...

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Moon Child, I Am

Moon Child, I Am I had several dates with the moon this past weekend. Quality time engaging with a beautiful essence.She speaks to me. She’s got this mystery and magic about her that both soothes and stirs me at my core. Sometimes I feel like her. I resonate.  At...

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I Am Not My Codependency {Poetry}

I Am Not Codependency {Poetry}   I struggle with codependency so they say This means that I’m feeling sad inside just about every day See, I want to please everyone around me so badly That’s about the only thing that makes me feel happy, sadly When they say “Oh...

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My Journey To Worthiness

My Journey Toward Worthiness   “Come Breakdown, break me wide open and do your thing. Carve your name in the caverns of my hollow heart. Rip off the blinders. Cut the shadow’s cord. I can’t take one more day of this pitch black. This sandpaper love has rubbed me...

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For Those Silently Screaming, Alone

For Those Silently Screaming, Alone You may be surprised to know just how many people go through life haunted by silent screams of loneliness, emptiness, and apathy. Nah, they won’t tell you and you won’t be able to tell because they are so good at wearing masks,...

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Fire Dancing {poetry}

her face shines, her heart sings, now. but her dance was birthed in the fire. fear not lovely soul, the phoenix always rises.

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You’re Not Too Old to Follow Your Dreams

You're Never Too Old To Follow Your Dreams One of my biggest passions growing up was playing sports- basketball in particular. I remember in grade school gym class we had to shoot free throws and my gym teacher commented on how good I was at that. I suppose that...

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Can You Love Your Wounded Inner Child?

Can You Love Your Wounded Inner Child? I didn't realize I had a wounded inner child till I was nearing 40 years old. In fact, I thought my childhood had been pretty normal, but once I started revisiting my past, I realized that I started stuffing my emotions at an...

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Am I In A Codependent Relationship?

Am I In A Codependent Relationship? Isn’t it wonderful when your relationship is going great?  You’re all in love and things are just flowing nicely. Yeah, let the good times roll, right? But what about when the relationship starts to go south?  The harmonious...

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